The Infamous Hard Alley

The Infamous Hard Alley
Second Life's Original Sin

Wednesday, November 24, 2010

My Thoughts on Drama

Drama is going to happen.  Fuck it.

Who are the players in a drama?

The Combatants:  These are the primary cause of the drama, dragging their arguments out for everyone to enjoy.

The Bystanders:  These are the people that get caught in the crossfire and are dragged into the drama unwittingly.

The Observers:  The people who are not part of the drama but can't turn away from it.

The Gangbangers:  The ones who aren't part of the initial drama, but jump into it, taking sides and making it a much bigger mess.

The Arbitrators:  Those who try to bring the drama to a close.  Usually neutral.

Bitches need to be put in their place!
SL is like RL.  It has drama.  Not everyone is going to get along with everyone else.  Personalities conflict.  Some people will like you.  Some won't.  Realistically, there's no avoiding it.  Everyone will be involved directly in drama at some point unless they are completely cut off from all other people.

The question is, how will you handle it?

Are you the Combatant?  If so, will you fight to your "dying breath" and never surrender until the other party is beaten and humiliated?  Is that a victory to you?  Will you decide that the drama is not worth the time you spend on it, and mute and move on?  Did you just let the other party "win"?

Putting the Bitch in her place!
If you aren't the Combatant, what role will you play?  Gangbanger?  Do you feel the need to plunge into the fray and make YOUR feelings heard?  Are you that wise, that you feel your arguments will suddenly bring the conflict to closure, or do you just see a good fight and want to be part of it?  Do you see friends on both sides and want to be the Arbitrator help them all get along?  Will you keep your opinions to yourself and quietly Observe the drama as it unfolds, popcorn in hand?

How you handle drama says more about you than the drama itself.  In most cases, all the original arguments are lost as everything devolves into "he said, she said" arguments that always go nowhere.  By the time the dust settles, no one really cares, no one has "won", and everyone is left with a bad taste in their mouth.  Think about the part you play.  Is anyone's SL (or RL) going to be a better place because of it?

I've had my share of drama.  I'm not proud of how I've handled it.  I hope to live and learn and do better next time.  Only time will tell if I am successful.  (for those of you reading the captions under the pictures, it's a joke!)

Drama? Fuck it.


Amykins said...

I completely agree and to any of the ones in the drama that reads this seriously fuck it... It's not worth the effort

Quinn Ying said...

I love you hard, wise and funny as always :)
I agree every single word!
Hugs and kisses xoxoox

Ray Lonergan said...

My drama raises the human skull and looks at and says "Alas, poor Yorick! I knew him, Horatio; a fellow of infinite jest, of most excellent fancy; he hath borne me on his back a thousand times; and now, how abhorred in my imagination it is! My gorge rises at it. Here hung those lips that I have kissed I know not how oft. Where be your gibes now?" takes a bow...thank you..

Hard Rust said...

Thanks Amy and Quinn!

Ray... I'd rather not hear about your gorge rising or the location of your gibes.

Hard Core Boss Lady said...

I feel drama is just a cry for attention, so I do whatever any mother does when her kids throw a tantrum..... I ignore them.

Anonymous said...


You've been the person who has made me smile the most during the last few days.

And sometimes even laugh out loud.

Thanks so much. I needed that.

Now can we all go back to having sex?